Frustration Level Reaches a High

16th June 2008

Frustration Level Reaches a High

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My husband’s frustration level with his mom is reaching an all time high. I will attempt to keep this short, but I have to say, I continue to think this woman is getting worse and worse.

My mother-in-law lives by herself in a rented condo in California. None of the 4 children live near her and the one that lives the closest is incapable of helping himself, much less helping her. In fact, we’ve learned that she sends that particular child what little money she has every month to keep him afloat because he’s apparently incapable of holding down a job of his own.

We have in the past attempted to get her to move closer to any of her children, but she insists that all is well and she likes where she lives. Unfortunately, she is not always truthful. We recently learned that there are several broken items in her condo that she refuses to ask the landlord to fix. She’s afraid of hurting the landlord’s feelings! The lock on her front door doesn’t even work and she’s afraid to ask to have it fixed! It’s ridiculous.

For many years I’ve tried to tell my husband that her memory is not very good, in fact, I’ve often wondered if she doesn’t have a mild form of dementia. Her children can’t see beyond their anger and frustration with her because the woman has always been somewhat manipulative. She just does some very strange things that make me think she’s not always aware of what she’s doing.

I’ve been looking into different treatments and one that stands out is sublingual B-12. The B-12 vitamin is known to help with diabetes as well as dementia. Sublingual B-12 is a safe and cheaper alternative to the B-12 shot that many people take. I’m going to have her talk to her doctor about it to make sure it’s safe to take with her blood pressure medication and if it is, I will be sending it out to her. I really want her to Try Sublingual B-12 from Trivita today. While I can’t change her manipulative personality, sublingual B-12 can help with memory and dementia.

Tags: sublingual B-12, Trivita

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1 On June 17th, 2008, Beth said:

The same thing happened to my grandfathers sister. All of her kids lived in Indiana, and she lived here in California. However California is a huge state and she live several hours from any distant family. One day her son made her go to Indiana and “visit”. When she was there the daughter, packed up her house and moved her to Indiana. Boy was she pissed, but it really is the best thing for her.

posted on June 17th, 2008 at 12:04 am

2 On June 17th, 2008, Jacqueline said:

Everybody needs an Angel. Seems as if you’re it in this situation. She’s lucky.

Jacqueline’s last blog post..Moving Foward By Stepping Back

posted on June 17th, 2008 at 3:57 am

3 On June 17th, 2008, Sue said:

It’s hard getting old. My grandmother was like that. They are proud, and don’t want to give up their independence. Hope it all works out ok. I also have a special award for you. You can get it here:
STAY AT HOME MOM

Sue’s last blog post..Sharing The Love

posted on June 17th, 2008 at 7:47 am

4 On June 17th, 2008, lynne said:

Beth - We’ve thought about doing the same thing with my mother-in-law. I really have no idea why she’s so determined to stay where she is, almost like she’s obligated to continue to rent this condo. She’s just strange and it causes problems. I think it’s going to take some time to figure it all out.

posted on June 17th, 2008 at 10:27 am

5 On June 17th, 2008, lynne said:

Jacqueline - She definitely needs an angel who is patient because she is so frustrating to deal with. We’ll have to wait and see what happens, my husband is currently getting all the facts together and will be sending a letter to the landlord to try to get things repaired. It’s just so difficult when we live so far away from the problem.

posted on June 17th, 2008 at 10:35 am

6 On June 17th, 2008, lynne said:

Sue - For some reason, my mother-in-law misplaces her loyalty. She doesn’t want to ask the landlord to fix anything because she might offend her. It’s insane. The front door doesn’t even close properly, so the lock won’t work. That’s a safety issue. My husband is working on getting a list together of everything that needs fixed. Apparently, even the electrical wiring is not up to code and is hazardous. What a pain!

posted on June 17th, 2008 at 10:38 am