Ok, I’ve got some ranting to do, so if you want to skip over, go ahead!
My mother-in-law has completely lost her mind! Unfortunately, I’m not just saying this and it’s no exaggeration. She’s always been a little wacky, but now, she can’t even remember what day it is, she is having some major issues. She lives by herself in California and we live in Texas, not exactly convenient for trying to help her out. My husband was seriously considering moving her into our home, but, thankfully, he has reconsidered. When I started pointing out all of the things he needed to consider before making such a big move, he decided it would not be the best thing for our own family.
We started some of our research by visiting SSA.gov, the U.S. Social Security Administration website. You see, she does receive Social Security benefits among other things and we wanted to make sure everything was in order. My husband’s father, her husband, passed away a few years ago and it’s important to make sure she would still be receiving those benefits, even if she moved. In addition, we wanted to make sure that her Medicaid benefits would also stay with her. She does require prescription medication on a regular basis and doctor care occasionally. These items are extremely expensive, something we can’t afford ourselves without insurance, so we needed to make sure she was covered, no matter where she lives.
We also followed up on the life insurance documentation she’s been showing us for years. We wanted to make sure it was correct and valid. We see a lot of those television ads for life insurance for senior citizens and wanted to make sure it wasn’t a scam, thank goodness it wasn’t! She currently lives in a privately owned condo and receives state aide for her rent. We’ve been unable to find anything near us that would be anywhere near the same price range which is why we started thinking we would have her move into our house.
In the end though, we realized that having her with us every single day would be very stressful. My husband has never been that close with her, although he talks to her all the time. The fact that she seems to have a stage of dementia, forgetting things constantly, having to be reminded of every little thing, and having to repeat ourselves over & over, moving her in with us, just seemed that it was going to bring too much stress into our home. We have a teenager and it was also going to uproot her, causing her to change bedrooms among other things. It may sound petty, but I just don’t think our marriage and our family would ever be the same if she moved in, so I’m glad my husband changed his mind!